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Post by rattlehead71 on Apr 29, 2009 15:35:13 GMT -8
See some names from other forums. Some may recognize mine. I enjoy the release model building brings, but may need some influence in other directions. Southern baptist all my life (don't hold it against me and fried chicken is not my favorite food), but my granny raised me since I was 7 and she just passed on the 25th of this month and I feel like a lost sheep looking for Bo-peep. Don't wear my heart on my sleeve so people are constantly asking am I ok. So how do I say I'm ok without lashing out and seeming like I need a psyche evaluation?
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Post by demonhunterfan on Apr 29, 2009 16:52:26 GMT -8
Hey dude, so sorry to hear about you losing your Granny after 30 years. Man, that's gotta be really rough. Just 4 days ago too-- oh man........ Man, if you don't feel 'OK', don't be sayin' you are. All you gotta be is honest. Maybe you could tell them "I just don't feel like talking about it, ok?" You do not have to please other people, especially at a time like this. Glad you decided to check us crazy Christians out here, and if I can be any help to ya, throw me a pm. I've taken some big hits, big losses too, and I know how it can totally suck, so....... I retired a couple years ago after putting in 33 years in a steel mill, the last two years of which were stress 24/7 on top of my going thru a divorce that wasn't going anywhere. Wound up having anxiety attacks---oh, what fun  ! God helped me get some rest and peace by reminding me who I am. First HE reminded me that since I became a Christian, I am HIS child and HE wasn't about to let anyone screw me over, as long as I didn't act like a total idiot. Really cool thing HE showed me was that I needed to just be me, at least for awhile, each day. Yeah, I had to put up with all the crap from the peeps at work, and the lawyer, and the ex, etc, etc, but HE finally got me to just stop all the stressing and be me---the artist, the model builder. I'll never forget the first time I actually did what HE said-- totally stressed out, shaking and everything, but I purposely walked away from all the housework I had to do, went and grabbed my sketchbook sat down and started to draw. I didn't have any particular goal in mind as a finished drawing, I was just drawing-- I was just being me--the 'me' that HE created, and it was like a miracle drug. I only had about 30 freakin' minutes to be 'me', but boy did it feel good, and I knew I could do it again the next day, even if it was only for 30 minutes. Try and do the same, dude. Give yourself some time. If the 'me' in you wants to just be alone and cry over the loss of your beloved Granny, just do it. GOD will be there crying with you. Take care. Later and God bless.  |
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Post by george53 on Apr 29, 2009 17:13:56 GMT -8
Rattle, John's got a point there. If ya don't feel like talkin about it, Don't. Jus do as John suggested an tell folks you'd rather not right now. After God shows you what to do/say, THEN you can talk about it,IF you feel like it. The loss of a loved one is ALWAYS devistating, but He gives us his strength to overcome our greif and carry on with our lives. Besides you KNOW Gram wouldn't want you feelin bad for any length of time.Just remember WHERE,AND WHO she's with! A more comforting thought I personally couldn't imagine! Not to worry, She's ok, and wanting for you to have a good life.After all when we finally get to go home, we'll be with ALL our loved ones,and now,so is she. God Bless you Rattle,Praise GOD, Thank You Jesus, Thank You Holy Spirit.
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Post by Fletch on Apr 29, 2009 20:36:27 GMT -8
Rattle, first things first. Our deepest heart felt condolences on the passing of your Granny. Being raised Southern Baptist won't be held against you. If it were my friend, I'd be in trouble as well. But, the fact that fried chicken isn't your favorite food, well now that's a different story.
I am a die hard NASCAR fan. Buddy Baker was relating a story about asking Bobby Allison how he managed to get past the fact that both his sons were killed at the race track. Bobby replied, "Unless you die you can't go to heaven." There is great wisdom and comfort to be found in that statement. In order to stand with Jesus we must shed this earthly vessel. Those of us left behind mourn the passing of a loved one. Not because we want to begrudge them their heavenly rewards but because of the void that now is in our life.
As John has already stated, if you're not OK, then tell them that your not OK. Ask them to give you space and you'll get back to them. Find a friend who you can openly and honestly talk with about the hurt you feel deep inside. Tell them about the hole in your heart. Be honest and open about your grief.
It's ok to laugh about the good times and just as ok to cry about the hurts. As men we tend to want to bottle it up so we don't come across as weak and vulnerable. But, believe me Brother it's ok, because if we take our rest in the arms of Jesus Christ he will be strong for us untill we can again be strong for ourselves.
BTW, welcome aboard.
In Christ
Dave
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! God helped me get some rest and peace by reminding me who I am. First HE reminded me that since I became a Christian, I am HIS child and HE wasn't about to let anyone screw me over, as long as I didn't act like a total idiot. Really cool thing HE showed me was that I needed to just be me, at least for awhile, each day. Yeah, I had to put up with all the crap from the peeps at work, and the lawyer, and the ex, etc, etc, but HE finally got me to just stop all the stressing and be me---the artist, the model builder. I'll never forget the first time I actually did what HE said-- totally stressed out, shaking and everything, but I purposely walked away from all the housework I had to do, went and grabbed my sketchbook sat down and started to draw. I didn't have any particular goal in mind as a finished drawing, I was just drawing-- I was just being me--the 'me' that HE created, and it was like a miracle drug. I only had about 30 freakin' minutes to be 'me', but boy did it feel good, and I knew I could do it again the next day, even if it was only for 30 minutes. Try and do the same, dude. Give yourself some time. If the 'me' in you wants to just be alone and cry over the loss of your beloved Granny, just do it. GOD will be there crying with you.
